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**__ Habit 4: Think Win-Win __**

· Balance courage for getting what I want with consideration for what others want · Make deposits in others’ Emotional Bank Accounts · When a conflict arises, look for third alternatives

Jacqui - We should always be considerate of others, whether we want to be or not. The old saying is that life is one big compromise. There is no such think as compromise - one must must give up what they want in order to satisfy someone else or make peace. When you learn to do that without rancor or bitterness then you are truly putting others' needs before your own. But, on the other hand, you can't do that all the time. There is a balancing point.

**﻿Katie - Showing consideration for others is a learned trait.......one that is taught through modeling. One has to give and take in life.**

Glenda - I think that being considerate died years ago, which is so sad. How do we teach students and adults alike this forgotten trait? Model! Model! Model!

Sissy - It is a balancing act between consideration and courage. We must model this trait daily.

Zeda- This is a trait that should come naturally to each of us. We should follow the old school rule "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". Sadly this is not practiced in so many situations. Michelle - Balancing is key. I try and stick to the saying "We have 2 ears and 1 mouth so we should listen twice as much as we speak." It doesn't always work but we can certainly set a good example for our children.

Ella-I am from the old school and being considerate of others was something that was instilled in us at an early age. It really upsets me when I see children and adults being inconsiderate to others.

Linda - Habit 4 is about traits that a lot of us have forgotten. How do we return to the respect, consideration, and caring traits and actions that our forefathers had long ago? It's sort of like a football game a lot of practice, practice, practice to get it right!

====**Shelia - Being considerate is something that should be taught at home from the get-go.......however, it is not done. As teachers, we have to model this behavior also. Teaching students that it is fine to disagree is an important aspect of all situations. Again, if we all had the same ideas and liked the same things, our world would be a boring place.** ====

Carol - We have lost the art of GOOD MANNERS. If we hope to regain it, then we must demonstrate - demonstrate - demonstrate it to our student and to others.

**Emily- All of my life my parents have taught me to "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." It would be so rewarding to be the first person to climb to the top of a certain moutain, and beat your friends/loved ones to it. But, is it fun when you are on top and all of your friends and loved ones are on bottom? Why, no! It would be better if your friends and loved ones made it to the top with you. A win-win frame of mind and heart is something I am going to strive to have more and more each day.**

Lisa Nordan- I never really thought about habit 4. I am going to be more aware of my students needs and how to go about getting them to have higher expectations for themselves. I have huge expectations for them but the trick is to get them to want to do better for themselves. There are so many great skits on youtube about the 7 habits. The skits gave me more ideas about habit 4.

Whitlock- I feel that as teachers we pretty much do this accordingly. For me, this is the hardest thing for students to learn. For our students to function effectively in society it's very important that they learn this habit. People must be able to coexist and be successful together as well as individually. In my opinion, a lot of our world lives by a "me" mentality and hopefully over time we as teachers can influence things in the other direction.

Tonya "Mrs. Incredible" Harris People and organizations with a “win-win” attitude have three key traits: By practicing Habit 4, we can be true winners who work cooperatively with others to achieve mutual solutions, satisfaction, and success. In situations where we can’t achieve a “win-win,” we must have the integrity, maturity and conviction—the character—to walk away. “Win-win” or no deals, rather than “win-lose” or “lose-lose” deals, are the best ways to be effective in our lives, work, and most valued relationships.
 * //Integrity://Sticking with their true feelings, values, and commitments
 * //Maturity://Expressing their ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for others’ ideas and feelings
 * //Abundance mentality:// Believing there’s plenty for everyone

David Lewis Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one. Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying. We both get to eat the pie, and it tastes pretty darn good!

Gibson, P. We just completed a segment in Health about conflict starters and conflict solvers. I felt like I was reprogramming the students because in many of the situations, they plainly stated that their way of solving a problem was to argue and fight their way out. Once we discussed and watched videos about how to solve conflicts peacefully, they began to agree that there were other methods to consider so that everyone would walk away a winner and to feel good about themselves.

Denise: I once had a teacher who attempted to instill "teamanship" in all her students. She once used a bundle of sticks to demonstrate how working together makes us all stronger. She first took one stick and broke it in half. That stick represented one person. She then took all the sticks and tried to break them. They wouldn't break. That bundle represented all of us working together. Win-Win is basically the same idea - alone, we are not as strong as when we all cooperate and work together.

Somar Ramos I have watched children play hard, and raise their hands high just to make that first win of the win win situation. When our students push their bodies and minds to the breaking point to prove to the teachers and their peers that they can be competitive and win that is half of our true goal, we must teach them how to do this but being considerrate of others who might not be able to reach as high or run as fast, we must have COMPASSION in order to understand and provide the Win-Win strategy that we are looking for.

Demorrius Manuel- Win -Win situation. Man thats a tough one for someone who is a varsity coach and a natural competitor. It quite easy for me to go along with a situation that has a definite winner and a definite loser. Sometimes I'm probably not very sensitive to other people's feelings. If I feel that i am right it really doesn't matter how others feel. Learning to examine situations in an effort to make everyone feel good about a decision is probably an area that I could improve. I dont plan to compromise right in an effort to make everyone a winner. I must work on this one. Sandra - To me, being considerate of other coworkers is not just expected professionally, but also should be a personal habit no matter whom we come in contact with. Creating a positive attitude comes from being positive yourself! Both adults and children pick up on your true feelings. When I feel that others are wrong about something and I am right, then I walk away and I do not choose that battle, it is not the professional thing to do.

Pam Mc., Bobbie Mac., Charity and Mrs. White- We should be considerate of others. Win-Win is not your way or my way, it's a better way. We should try and identify solutions or agreements that are beneficial to all who are involved.

Gwen, Patti, and Teresa It is so important to be considerate of others. We try to model this Habit to our students daily. Everyone wins when we all work together. Becky Gibson- I agree with Katie. Good Manners are a learned behavior. Therefore, we should model this behavior daily at school! ﻿Liz - All persons involved in a situation should strive for common ground. We should learn how to value and respect others.

Pam Moody - To me, one on the most important life skills that is critical to future success is how to deal with people that do not like you and people that are hard to get along with.